Giving 100% of Yourself is Exhausting

Are you the type of person who has always prided yourself on your work?
Will you accept nothing less than perfection in all that you do?
Do you overextend yourself with such frequency that it effects your life?

I’ve always been that way. I have always set exceptionally high standards for myself.

I remember being told as a child that if you’re going to do something then you had to do it to 100% of your ability, and to me that meant perfection. It’s a lesson I’ve carried with me, and it’s something I’m actively trying to change.

Throughout the years I learned that I was very capable of doing things. My work was always rewarded, and people regularly sought out my help because of the high quality results I achieved. This was fantastic because I’m the type of person who thrives on the recognition I receive from others, but it’s also exhausting!

It’s tiring to give 100% of yourself all the time, and even more tiresome when other people are asking for it too.

I’m trying to change this in my life by saying “No” more often. I figure that by doing this I will be giving myself permission to say “Yes” to more of the things I enjoy, or simply allowing myself the opportunity to relax every once in awhile.

There’s a certain level of stress that surrounds someone who gives too much, and this manifests itself in anxiety, restlessness, illness, and burn-out. I know personally I feel an almost constant sense of tension in my mind and body; it shows up in the form of headaches, and butterflies in my stomach. I always feel like I’m on-call, and never have the opportunity to switch off. I never feel truly rested.

Even when I’m not doing anything, my mind is still racing, because I’m busy thinking about all of the things I need to accomplish for myself, or for others. Outwardly, you would never know the struggle I face internally. I would never let you know that I have too much on my plate, or that I simply cannot take on one more thing. Instead, I will smile, and only show you composure.

I am a multi-tasker. I am a giver. I am a perfectionist. I am an over-achiever.

I am learning how to say “No!”¬†

Do you ever feel overwhelmed?
How do you manage yourself when you feel like you’re giving too much?

Entrepreneurs Mind Goes A Mile A Minute

Sometimes the issue isn’t having too few ideas, sometimes it’s having too many!

If you’re like me, you’re never at a loss for ideas! Your mind probably races with all the possibilities that business (and life) have to offer.

I’ve never had a lack of ideas. If brainstorming were an Olympic sport, I’d bring home the Gold every time!

To be perfectly honest, this can be hard to manage. It’s difficult to put priority on ideas when they are constantly there. In quiet times I find myself plotting and scheming in the back of my mind. During busy moments there are even more opportunities that present themselves. Every circumstance in my life breeds new ideas. What to do about them?

I was once given the advice to write down my ideas when I think about them. I was told that it would help me to clear my mind. This is fine, and worthy advice, but what do I do with them then?

You know exactly what I’m talking about, don’t you? You’re just like me, and end up with stacks of papers, booklets full of lists, and sticky notes everywhere. Feels counter-productive.

There must be a solution for those of us who have brains that won’t shut off.

How do we prioritize, and take action on some of these ideas, while letting go of others?

Don’t Let Fear Stop You From Starting

One of the greatest barriers on the journey towards becoming an entrepreneur is fear.

Fear manifests itself as self doubt. The feeling that you’re not good enough, or you don’t know where to start, or that the task is simply too monumental to accomplish.

Don’t let these fears talk you out of what you know you’re destined to do.

Becoming an entrepreneur is a journey for the strong willed. We all know that there will be bumps along the road, but don’t become one of your own bumps. Let life knock you around, and learn lessons from it, but don’t contribute to it by doubting your own abilities.

You know you were made for this. You know that you are good enough, and smart enough. It’s time to start taking control of your thoughts, and allowing the positive ones to drive you.

Doubt is paralyzing. It will stop you. It will prevent you from doing anything.

Push doubt aside, and just get moving. Motion leads to momentum.

Once you start moving you won’t be able to stop yourself. Things will start to fall into place. Ideas will start to flow.

What do you do to put fear in it’s place? How do you get started when you feel fear?

Little Women Playing with Big Business

Have you ever felt like a little girl, and not the strong, powerful woman you really are?

I felt that way throughout my entire corporate career. I knew I was good enough. I knew I was smart enough, and I certainly knew I was talented enough, but there was always that nagging voice in the back of my mind that consistently told me “You’re just a little woman who’s playing dress-up.”

“Climb the Corporate Ladder.” they said, so I did, and I clawed my way, kicking and screaming all the way up.

Every time I received a promotion, or hit a particular milestone in my career, I always felt as though someone was patting me on the top of my head saying “There, there dear, you’ve done a good job.” Not literally of course, but figuratively. Publicly, I always got accolades, and praise, but subconsciously I always sensed condescension.

How do you hold your head up high, and feel pride in your accomplishments, when internally¬†you feel as though it’s all a sham?

The issue never came with my capabilities. I was competent. It came from never really feeling like I was grown up enough for the responsibilities I was given.

When did I become an adult? When did people start looking up to me? When did I learn all these things that I’m now doing?

I was shocked!

Have you ever been taken completely aback by your ability? How did you overcome your feelings of doubt?

Entrepreneur Trapped in a J-O-B World

Throughout my life, I’ve excelled at every job I’ve ever done. When I got an interview, I was hired. When I got the job, I was promoted. When I was promoted, I learned new skills. When I learned new skills, I was more marketable. When I was more marketable, more opportunities presented themselves, and so, the cycle would begin again at a higher level of influence. This was a wonderful opportunity, for which I am thankful, but there was a problem… I was bored!

Working for someone else was never a vision I had for myself.

I identify with my career, and the work I do largely shapes who I am on a personal level. When I worked for others, I always felt as though there was something lacking from my life. I always felt limited by their boundaries, and their personal aspirations. Sometimes I would find myself more passionate about their business than they did, and my enthusiasm would be seen as over the top, even intimidating to some.

My reaction would be to tone it down, and let my excitement fade.

When a dreamer allows themselves to be limited by others, they can feel trapped. I’ve felt trapped by evey job I’ve ever held. Not at first, remember my enthusiasm, but over time. After being told “No” or “We can’t do that” or “It’s not our policy” enough times, I begin to feel like a caged animal. So, I usually leave, a little disgruntled, and look to find another adventure, and so, the cycle would begin again.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve been searching for fulfillment all your life, and if you’re anything like me, a large part of that fulfillment comes from what you do as a career, so you can probably identify with the frustration I’ve felt as an employee. You were probably raised, very similar to me, and were taught to go to school, get good grades, and find a decent job. We simply weren’t taught that there were alternatives.

I have always been entrepreneurial, as a kid I sold friendship bracelets, and anything else I thought someone might pay for, but my skills were not recognized, and I did not have a mentor to guide me. As a young person I saw these activities as fun, but did not know at the time that they could be valuable. Instead, I dismissed them as a hobby, and focused on the tasks that would lead me towards a job, thus begins my journey towards discontentment.

Years and years I spent working in 9 to 5 drudgery, when I knew as a child what I was supposed to do. I’ve never been meant to punch a clock, or commute. I’ve been destined to make my own rules, and rely on my own creativity to excell in this world.

It’s been a long journey to get to where I am today, but I’m so glad I’m finally here. I’m taking the first steps as an adult towards entrepreneurship. I’m going back to basics, and back to what I truely love to do. I am going to let my spirit soar, and do what I was meant to do all along.

Have you ever experienced a feeling like mine? What did you do about it?
Please share in the comments below.