9 to 5 Isn’t Going To Cut It!

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Never since the industrial revolution have we experienced a paradigm shift like we are experiencing now.

So many people are joining the home-based business revolution.

Small businesses, network marketing, and sole-proprietorships are popping up everywhere.

With the current economical state, and strife within the government, we are all looking for alternatives to supplement our incomes. Our motivations are all different: some need to provide for their family, some need to generate additional income, some have come to learn that their retirement plan simply isn’t going to pay out they way they had expected all along.

Regardless of the reasons, we are all beginning to realize that the traditional 9 to 5 isn’t going to cut it any more.

Although we can all benefit from this shift, but in order to thrive, we have to fundamentally change our way of thinking.

If you were like me, when you were raised you were told to go to school, get a good job, and when you became a good employee, the rest would take care of itself. Well, we’ve all had a rude awakening, haven’t we?

There is no such thing as a secure job. Nobody these days gets hired to a job, and has the security our parents felt when they joined the workforce. For our generation, an education is no longer the ticket to financial security it once was. Often times, an education turns into nothing more than another debt we have to pay back, and we have nothing to show for it.

It’s less expensive these days for big corporations to outsource, or to hire unskilled (or novice) employees, and terminate them when their skills reach a level where they would have to compensate them more. We’ve created a culture where everyone is disposable, and nobody feels secure.

This has turned our workforce into a group of self-serving individuals, who feel no commitment to their employer, because they know that in the end they will have to fend for themselves.

Floundering in the workforce has left us with one option: TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR OWN FUTURE!

It’s not surprising then, that the home-based business has experienced such a surge in recent years. We are all afraid, and the traditional system is letting us down.

The question is: How do you find the thing that you can do on your own, and become successful enough to support yourself (or simply pay your bills)?

HOW DO YOU FIND YOUR PASSION, AND HOW DO YOU TURN THAT INTO A PAYCHECK?

Giving 100% of Yourself is Exhausting

Are you the type of person who has always prided yourself on your work?
Will you accept nothing less than perfection in all that you do?
Do you overextend yourself with such frequency that it effects your life?

I’ve always been that way. I have always set exceptionally high standards for myself.

I remember being told as a child that if you’re going to do something then you had to do it to 100% of your ability, and to me that meant perfection. It’s a lesson I’ve carried with me, and it’s something I’m actively trying to change.

Throughout the years I learned that I was very capable of doing things. My work was always rewarded, and people regularly sought out my help because of the high quality results I achieved. This was fantastic because I’m the type of person who thrives on the recognition I receive from others, but it’s also exhausting!

It’s tiring to give 100% of yourself all the time, and even more tiresome when other people are asking for it too.

I’m trying to change this in my life by saying “No” more often. I figure that by doing this I will be giving myself permission to say “Yes” to more of the things I enjoy, or simply allowing myself the opportunity to relax every once in awhile.

There’s a certain level of stress that surrounds someone who gives too much, and this manifests itself in anxiety, restlessness, illness, and burn-out. I know personally I feel an almost constant sense of tension in my mind and body; it shows up in the form of headaches, and butterflies in my stomach. I always feel like I’m on-call, and never have the opportunity to switch off. I never feel truly rested.

Even when I’m not doing anything, my mind is still racing, because I’m busy thinking about all of the things I need to accomplish for myself, or for others. Outwardly, you would never know the struggle I face internally. I would never let you know that I have too much on my plate, or that I simply cannot take on one more thing. Instead, I will smile, and only show you composure.

I am a multi-tasker. I am a giver. I am a perfectionist. I am an over-achiever.

I am learning how to say “No!” 

Do you ever feel overwhelmed?
How do you manage yourself when you feel like you’re giving too much?

Little Women Playing with Big Business

Have you ever felt like a little girl, and not the strong, powerful woman you really are?

I felt that way throughout my entire corporate career. I knew I was good enough. I knew I was smart enough, and I certainly knew I was talented enough, but there was always that nagging voice in the back of my mind that consistently told me “You’re just a little woman who’s playing dress-up.”

“Climb the Corporate Ladder.” they said, so I did, and I clawed my way, kicking and screaming all the way up.

Every time I received a promotion, or hit a particular milestone in my career, I always felt as though someone was patting me on the top of my head saying “There, there dear, you’ve done a good job.” Not literally of course, but figuratively. Publicly, I always got accolades, and praise, but subconsciously I always sensed condescension.

How do you hold your head up high, and feel pride in your accomplishments, when internally you feel as though it’s all a sham?

The issue never came with my capabilities. I was competent. It came from never really feeling like I was grown up enough for the responsibilities I was given.

When did I become an adult? When did people start looking up to me? When did I learn all these things that I’m now doing?

I was shocked!

Have you ever been taken completely aback by your ability? How did you overcome your feelings of doubt?