Are you the type of person who has always prided yourself on your work?
Will you accept nothing less than perfection in all that you do?
Do you overextend yourself with such frequency that it effects your life?
I’ve always been that way. I have always set exceptionally high standards for myself.
I remember being told as a child that if you’re going to do something then you had to do it to 100% of your ability, and to me that meant perfection. It’s a lesson I’ve carried with me, and it’s something I’m actively trying to change.
Throughout the years I learned that I was very capable of doing things. My work was always rewarded, and people regularly sought out my help because of the high quality results I achieved. This was fantastic because I’m the type of person who thrives on the recognition I receive from others, but it’s also exhausting!
It’s tiring to give 100% of yourself all the time, and even more tiresome when other people are asking for it too.
I’m trying to change this in my life by saying “No” more often. I figure that by doing this I will be giving myself permission to say “Yes” to more of the things I enjoy, or simply allowing myself the opportunity to relax every once in awhile.
There’s a certain level of stress that surrounds someone who gives too much, and this manifests itself in anxiety, restlessness, illness, and burn-out. I know personally I feel an almost constant sense of tension in my mind and body; it shows up in the form of headaches, and butterflies in my stomach. I always feel like I’m on-call, and never have the opportunity to switch off. I never feel truly rested.
Even when I’m not doing anything, my mind is still racing, because I’m busy thinking about all of the things I need to accomplish for myself, or for others. Outwardly, you would never know the struggle I face internally. I would never let you know that I have too much on my plate, or that I simply cannot take on one more thing. Instead, I will smile, and only show you composure.
I am a multi-tasker. I am a giver. I am a perfectionist. I am an over-achiever.
I am learning how to say “No!”
Do you ever feel overwhelmed?
How do you manage yourself when you feel like you’re giving too much?